We’re kicking off April with a tried and true Blog Free month as part of our precisely planned and impressively elaborate themes. Okay, mostly out of laziness and an unwillingness to commit to a specific theme long-term. Which, given this week’s pick, is perhaps surprisingly on the nose?
Childhood sweethearts spice up their relationship by pursuing sexual affairs on the side with…permission.
Brooklyn hipsters, young and in love, seem ready to settle down. Anna and Will have known each other since childhood and have been in love ever since. While Will owns an incredibly hipster-y carpentry business with his bff Reece, Anna is a grad student focusing on music performance. On a side note: Reece is also the serious boyfriend of Hale, Anna’s brother.
Just before Will decides to propose at dinner with the four assembled, Reece decides to be a complete tool. Before settling down with Hale, Reece made quite a few notches in his belt and adopts a bit of a condescending know-it-all attitude to Anna and Will’s commitment to each other. In reality, Reece is merely shifting the subject from his own relationship issues with Hale, unknowingly setting all four on an incredibly stupid journey of narcissism and poor decisions.
Though Anna and Will initially laugh off Reece’s suggestion that they sleep with other people, Anna keeps coming back to the idea and is rather keen on it. They both believe the idea of monogamy is BS and question the idea that a relationship could be so fragile that it would be ruined by a sexual affair. After some consideration, they decide to give this whole idiotic idea a try, reasoning that it isn’t really an affair if they give each other permission to pursue other sexual relationships.
Predictably, this is much more difficult than anticipated. Almost immediately, Anna feels an emotional connection to the guy she hooks up with, Dane. Like Anna, Dane is a musician, plus he also makes her breakfast at night because he knows she won’t stay until morning. Initially, Anna and Will decided against seeing any of their hook ups again, but the two quickly scratch that rule.
Meanwhile, Will finds a romantic partner in the form of Lydia, played perfectly by Gina Gershon. Lydia buys a table from Will, who delivers it to her late at night, which is a euphemism but also a real thing that happens in this film.
I have neglected Hale and Reece’s relationship drama, which centers around Hale’s wish to start a family and Reece’s reluctance to do so. Though I find all of the leads insufferable in their own ways, Reece is an exceptionally horrible douchebag who refuses to even talk to Hale about this. As the two seem to grow farther apart, Hale meets a father with a young child at the park and grows more attached to the idea of having a child.
At a certain point, Will wants to stop with the arrangement he and Anna have made and get back to their life as it was before they forgot how to be adults. But can they ever go back to the way things were?
2/5 Pink Panther Heads
Those PPHs are mostly for Rebecca Hall’s hair in this, which is gorgeous. I don’t think there’s any room to complain about the acting either, but the supporting characters far outshine the leads. We get much too close for comfort with our main four, who treat each other horrendously and all seem to be quite removed from reality.
I’m annoyed because I completely support the ideas Anna and Will discuss dealing with sexual liberation, monogamy, and non-traditional relationships. However, up to this point they have been the most fucking monogamous couple ever–as much as they may think of themselves as free spirits in this context, they have very much internalized societal norms surrounding relationships.
With both sets of relationships, the film seems to explore what happens when partners no longer want the same thing–if indeed, it’s possible for both to truly want the same thing from their relationship. That’s another element here too–expectations for relationships and what they will (or will not) fulfill. Better bet? Just get a fucking cat/dog/literally anything besides a pointlessly stupid human.
My main problem with this film really boils down to how often I sympathized with men throughout. I hate how bad I felt for both Will and Dane, who of course don’t inherently deserve Anna’s (or any woman’s) love. However, it’s difficult to see her completely disregard their feelings and deny any wrongdoing. Though I don’t think she’s initially aware of her interest in exploring other possibilities outside of the relationship, Anna nevertheless comes across as incredibly manipulative almost to the point of being a sociopath. Admittedly I’m also a sucker for anyone who makes breakfast at any and all hours.
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